MP 099 : Yelling – The Lazy Approach to Parenting

We listen to what our parents say to us because this is how we figure out who we are.
– Dr. Meg Meeker

The words that parents say to their children are important, but equally as important (if not more) is HOW we say those words. We have found this through our own struggles with yelling! Communication happens not only verbally, but also emotionally, so our words can be lost in the way in which we express ourselves. When we raise our voices in anger through yelling we may unintentionally be verbally assaulting our own children. In this show we talk about having a plan, getting perspective and asking for help.

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EVENT – St. Rose in Newtown CT

Who: Married Couples and Parents
What: Building a Family Culture with Mike & Alicia Hernon
When: Saturday, December 8, 2018 with talk from 4pm – 5pm, Mass at 5:30pm, special presentation for Beloved Couples after mass including dinner 6:30pm – 8:30pm
Where: St. Rose of Lima Church, 46 Church Hill Road, Newtown, Connecticut 06470

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EVENT – The Ministry of Parenting at St. Vincents

You are invited to register for a special day for families at Saint Vincent in Latrobe, PA!

Who: All Parents
What: The Ministry of Parenting with Mike & Alicia Hernon, and Fr. Boniface Hicks
When: Saturday, November 17, 2018 with Mass at 8:30am, Conference 9:30am-2:30pm
Where: St. Vincents Archabbey, Rogers Center, 300 Fraser Purchase Rd, Latrobe, PA 15650
Why: Because you are so important… this will be both encouraging and so much fun!
How much: $25 individual/$40 couple + $10/child (lunch and childcare included)

Register NOW

The Institute for Ministry Formation at Saint Vincent Seminary is hosting an event entitled “The Ministry of Parenting” with special guest speakers Alicia and Michael Hernon. On November 17th at St. Vincent Archabbey in Latrobe, PA, the Hernons will offer reflections and lead parents in exercises to foster prayerful growth in parenting. Families are the domestic Church and parenting is one of the most important ministries in the Church. The day is designed for married couples, or parents who can attend alone. This workshop is an opportunity to grow in exercising parenting as a ministry that can sanctify parents, their children and the greater society through evangelization as a family. This gathering will also provide an opportunity to develop relationships with other dedicated Catholic parents. Registration fees include lunch and child care activities. Register today! Watch a preview of the event featuring Michael Hernon and Fr. Boniface Hicks below!

MP 098 : Parenting as a Team

Raising children is beautiful but also hard work. It’s a task for unselfish, devoted parents. ~ Archbishop Chaput

Parenting is not for cowards, that is for sure! Thankfully, God gives children two parents who, when they work together, can provide the best environment for their child. But working together can be tough. Spouses come from different backgrounds, have different personalities, virtues, and vices. All of this needs to be worked through to get in sync with each other. Presenting a united front to your children is not only good for them, its good for you and your marriage as well. Listen in as we give some tips on how to parent together with respect, unity, and God’s grace.

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MP 097 : Elements of a Family Culture

“Each family finds within itself a summons that cannot be ignored and that specifies both its dignity and responsibility: family, become what you are” (Familiaris Consortio, #17)

We have discussed how important a family culture is. It is a powerful construct that communicates more effectively than your words alone can. But how do parents build a healthy culture in their home? What should the elements be? The first priority should be building a spiritual life, which we discussed in “Building a Family Culture” but what comes after that? In this podcast, we discuss the next 4 priorities: your marriage, the family’s network of relationships, discovering giftedness, and family operations. Listen in and then take some time to discuss with your spouse what needs to be strengthened in the culture you are building in your home. (BONUS: At the very end we are joined by a special guest.)

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MP 096 : Building a Family Culture

Creating a Family Culture is a powerful way to influence our children in a way that goes beyond our relationship with any one individual child. It is greater than just you or your spouse. Family Culture is the unspoken system that binds your family together and communicates your expectations, beliefs, and values more powerfully than any written word. It is a natural construct, but it is actually spiritual also because it creates an invisible web that binds your family together. This system of values and beliefs that result in behavior powerfully forms the way of life for your family. Parents need to be thoughtful and intentional about the culture that they are stewarding within their home. Listen in as we explain the priorities that should be found in a healthy family culture.  Part 1 of 2… more to come

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MP 095 : Sibling Challenges

Siblings: Children of the same parents each of whom is perfectly normal until they get together ~ Sam Levenson

One of the greatest gift we can give our children is more brothers and sisters. But as parents our responsibility isn’t just to provide those siblings and just walk away saying, “Hope it all works out!”. We need to provide the environment and guidance that children need to have healthy, life-giving relationships with their brothers and sisters. This is a challenge – no doubt about it! But the effort that parents put into this formation is worth it in the long run. Listen in as we give tips, perspective, and encouragement to all parents who are working to overcome sibling challenges.

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MP 094 : The Myth of the Play Date

“When little people are overwhelmed by big emotions it is up to us to share our calm, not join in the chaos”

You are at a friend’s house for dinner with your kids. The 3 and 5 yr old are playing on the floor. Each has a toy, but then one child decides that he wants what his friend has. Chaos ensues. What are parents to do? How do you deal with your child? What do you say to the little friend? How do you manage this with your hosts? This is a sticky situation that many parents run into – how can you have peace between little kids visiting together? We talk about this and give some realistic expectations on little kids play and social interactions.

MP 093 : Leisure, Life, and Games We Love

“…the ability to be “at leisure” is one of the basic powers of the human soul.”
– Josef Pieper, Leisure, the Basis of Culture

How many of us really appreciate what it mean to enjoy leisure in our lives? Life can’t be just about work, and simply “having fun” doesn’t capture what we really need to be rejuvenated in our lives. We need to allow ourselves to just “be” and we need to also create that culture within our family. Taking time for reading, creating, or playing games is one of the ways we can have a foretaste of heaven. In this podcast we discuss this topic, but we also give a list of recommended games for different age groups and games that the whole family can play, no matter what the age!

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MP 092 : High Powered Parents

To be in your child’s memories tomorrow you have to be in their lives today. ~ Unknown.

Be who you were made to be and you will set the world on fire. ~ St. Catherine of Siena

There are parents in this world who are greatly gifted. They started out as Catholic men and women who were highly successful in their professional lives and had made sacrifices to get there. When children come into the picture, how do these professionals, who are now parents, order their lives to make family a top priority? In this podcast, we discuss the principles that parents can apply in ordering these goods – the good of developing your professional skill and the good of family life – towards the optimal path to holiness and wholeness. There are no simple answers, but with prayer and discussion parents can make a decision that will give them peace.

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