MP 079 : The Irreplaceable Role of Parents

“A child will have many friends and companions in their lives, but they will only ever have two parents.” ~Mike and Alicia

The role of parents in the lives of their children cannot be underestimated. Of course we have a natural role – we are to protect and provide for our offspring- but we sometimes forget that we have an irreplaceable role in the spiritual and emotional lives of our children as well. There are many messages from the world telling us otherwise, but we need to stand firm in the truth that we have a dignity and responsibility as parents. When your children are young you cannot be your child’s friend, or companion, or buddy. You need to be the authority figure, the protector, the image of God the Father to them. This is a daunting task, but God will give you the grace you need.

What is your “irreplaceable role”? How can you take your rightful place in the life of your child in a way that no one else can?

  • Protect them- Infants and toddlers need protecting, but so do teenagers. Looks different, but someone has to do it.
  • Provide for them- We realize we need to give food, clothing and shelter, but we also need to provide for kids emotionally, socially, and spiritually.
  • Form them- You are the first and best teacher of your child. Lean into that role and use the power of your relationship to speak to their heart.
  • Be a student of your child- Observe them. Learn their personality type. Find what motivates them. This is true at every age. We all want to be known and it gives a person security like nothing else to be “known” by their parents.
  • Invest in them- You could die tomorrow and in a few weeks you would be replaced at work, but your children would be changed forever by your loss. Your family is the greatest return on your investment. And they need you more than anyone else.
  • Sense of identity and belonging- Your child is a son or daughter of God and you are the one to confirm that identity on them. Create a family culture so your child knows that when the world beats them up, they will always know who they are and have a place in your home.
  • Sense of purpose- One of the highest and most important needs of man is a sense of purpose. Children need to know that God has a plan for their lives, that He has a mission specifically for them. Their life as a purpose, and you will be there to walk beside them and find that purpose together.

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Comments 4

  1. Hi Mike and Alicia! I had no idea you all were doing this. I will start reading and listening, we all need encouragement in this crucial role we play as parents! Blessings from an old friend,

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  2. This was a fantastic overview of the importance of parenting and the responsibilities of parents. You beautifully described the need for parents to be both loving and authoritative in their children’s lives. This is important because it is a responsibility that has been given to us by God in our vocation. It is also important because we image God to our children in this way. If we show our children how we can be simultaneously loving and authoritative, then they will more easily understand how our Heavenly Father is both infinitely loving and merciful but also demanding and authoritative. While the world may try to make these contradictory qualities, a good parent knows these are not incompatible and when we live this in our families then we parents and our children deepen our understanding of God our Father. Our children will primarily learn who God is in our domestic churches, and one of the best ways they will learn about God is through the image of God we provide as parents. Thank you for sharing your stories and encouraging all of us to be the best parents we can be!

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      Brian — AMEN! Well said, this is a challenging but not impossible role. Our kids will have many friends and companions in their lives, but they will only ever have two parents. God has given us the grace to be/ act as if we are created in His image and likeness. This is an awesome opportunity but it will stretch us beyond our abilities as well. Through our “ordinary” work as parents something extraordinary happens. This is the solution to much of the problems in society today – parents fully embracing their role as parents. We truly appreciate your feedback and encouragement!

      Mike and Alicia

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